Dream from the mailbag:
I had a dream that my 4 year old daughter fell in a river and drown, and i jumped in to save her, but couldn’t reach her for a while..when i got her i started doing cpr, and i heard her little voice in my head saying” mommy i want to hug you back, but i can’t” (here is the weird part) my daughter woke up and told me she had a dream that she died, and she woke up, went back to sleep, then told me she had another dream that someone was trying to fix her. What does this mean???
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Technically speaking, within the domain of Dream telepathy is a fragment called Shared dreaming (also known as mutual dreaming) referring to the concept of linking one’s dream experience with another dreamer.
Just like with lucid dreaming, shared dreaming is said to occur spontaneously or alternatively, it can be induced deliberately.[thanks wiki]
It is possible, at least from where I sit, that you and your daughter could have, in a sense, shared this dream or at least the feelings, desires and fears that triggered this shared experience. Of course, there is no way to know for certain but the themes of both of your dreams being along similar lines do point to a link.
…my 4 year old daughter fell in a river and drown…
I want to begin with the idea of “being swept away”. I think about how rivers are fast moving currents of water that carve their own path through the landscape and I think of how your daughter (4) may represent herself at her current vulnerable age. Here’s my wild guess, might there be a fear that she is growing up to quickly? The flow of life is one that can’t be easily slowed, one that swallows up the youngest of children and spits out adults. Perhaps you observed something in your daughter that made you fear that your baby is getting bigger.
…I jumped in to save her, but couldn’t reach her for a while…
I used to have a recurring theme in my dreams when my son was younger that he would be somewhere across town during some tragedy and I would spend most of the dream trying to get back to him. I think this reaching or trying to save our kids in dreams relates to this desire we have to be the ones to help our kids when they need. To be the sole source of their safety, wisdom and love, but in reality the world is also their teacher. Perhaps she is starting to show signs of independence or beginning to do things on her own.You “jumped in” might mean that you feel the need to intervene or aid but that whatever you are doing might take some time before it will be effective or before you see its effectiveness.
…when I got her I started doing cpr, and I heard her little voice in my head saying” mommy I want to hug you back, but I can’t”…
CPR is the logical way to save a drowning victim and so it makes perfect sense that once you get to her this is what you would do. So my thinking here is that whatever situations she gets into you will be there to help, you know how to do it and you won’t let her down, or drown as the dream suggests. “Mommy, I want to hug you back, but I can’t” might be a little baffling. IMHO, words in dreams are very deliberate but sometimes nonsensical since most dreams revolve around feelings, images and sensations and not words. Perhaps you are feeling like you are doing everything and not seeing a return on your investment, so to speak. There is a strong desire on your part to help or to fix even to the point of breathing and pumping her little heart for her. The desire is there, but the circumstances aren’t right. You want to help but you can’t. Maybe she wants to be able to express to you how she feels, but she can’t.
And now to the ‘weird’ part. The first idea is that since your dream was so dramatic or should I say, emotionally charged, that your daughters energy was pulled in. Little kids have super powerful minds and can easily dial into their parents energy. I remember having feelings and thoughts as a child that didn’t make sense, only to find out later that I was most likely picking up on the thoughts and feelings of my parents at the time. That is not to say, it isn’t possible that you were pulled into her dream. Either way the point seems to be clear, whatever fast moving change is coming or has come to your child, both you and your daughter know that you will be there to help.
thank you soo much for your reply, this all seems to make a little more sense, and having a scary dream like that is just that..scary. I was recently following a story in the news of a 3 year old girl who drown, and i somehow felt soo emotionally connected to this little girl that i cried for the loss of her little life. i befriended her mother on facebook and sent my condolences, thinking this would somehow ease the pain I was feeling for her and her little girl. I think this may have been somewhat of a lead for this dream i had, but it’s amazing how i can pull my daughter into my dreams, or her pull me into hers. I was told that me and a friend used to have full conversations in our sleep when i was younger. I can only assume that i am a very vivid dreamer…which i don’t remember a lot of my dreams, only the ones that scare me, or the ones that are just weird and don’t make any sense. Well any way thank you soo much for your response to my post..I am very happy with your reply.
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